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Nothing kills my faith in humanity like how initially amusing jokes turn into disgusting cultural memes. See “ginger” and “friend zone.”

People are so obnoxious there is now an episode of Scrubs that is completely ruined because it introduced the term “friend zone.”

And there are still legions of guys who complain that women find men untrustworthy, and spurn their “good” and “nice” advances when…

…what challenges MY faith in men the most is when friendliness revealed to hide an ulterior motive.

I understand the pain of being attracted to someone and finding out they aren’t. It sucks. But you know what ELSE I understand?

I understand the raw hurt that comes from finding out someone only complimented your writing because he was working up a way to ask you out.

The shock of finding out that someone’s been saying you’re intelligent because you have nice breasts, but actually thinks you’re vapid.

The crushing blow of learning that the guy you’ve been confiding in, that you thought understood and loved you as a friend, only wanted sex.

The one guy I ever loved broke it off with “I’d rather be friends.” I cried all night. It didn’t hurt a tenth as much as that, though.

You think you know pain? That the “Friend Zone” hurts? Fuck you. Try living in the zone where you’re valued only for fuckability.

Believe me, the friend zone is far preferable to not being able to trust someone to be a real friend.


If your response to my last rant is “Respect manpain, that some guys lie doesn’t make wanting to be just friends acceptable behavior”…

Know that you’ve implied that someone who wants to be friends rather than lovers is behaving inappropriately, and that makes you an asshole.

That is outright saying that the only acceptable behavior for a woman is to say yes to sex. Which is not consent.

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Ragnell, on the Friend Zone. 

Men don’t seem to believe it happens to women — that women become interested in anyone who doesn’t feel the same way about them.   Believe me it happens.  Rejection sucks, but not as badly as finding out that the friendship was a false front.

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This has happened to me- and it SUCKS. 

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What's Wrong With Fat-Shaming? | xoJane 

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#xojane #fatshaming #fat politics 

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Stores That Cater To Plus Size Women

babybutta:

bigbeautifulblackgirls:

  1. Torrid
  2. Asos Curve 
  3. Alloy
  4. Old Navy
  5. eShakti
  6. Forever 21+
  7. Wet Seal Plus
  8. Lane Bryant
  9. Fashion Bug
  10. Loop 18
  11. ModCloth
  12. Avenue
  13. One Stop Plus
  14. Jessica London
  15. Ashley Stewart
  16. Macy’s Plus
  17. Kiyonna
  18. Alight
  19. Roamans
  20. Deb Plus
  21. b & lu
  22. Dorothy Perkins
  23. Primark
  24. Evans
  25. City Chic
  26. Domino Dollhouse
  27. Dots
  28. Sealed With A Kiss Designs
  29. Ross
  30. TJ Maxx
  31. Marshalls
  32. Sears Plus
  33. Target Plus
  34. KMart Plus
  35. Fashion to Figure
  36. Simply Be
  37. eVogues

*eye twitches at fashion bug* 

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"But most of all, stop thinking that what people so loathingly refer to as the “friendzone” is some sort of purgatory women put “nice guys” into. My friendship is not a crappy consolation prize that you’re left with if I deny you a sexual relationship– and my body is not your reward for good behavior."

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fuckyeahfeminists:

How The Zero Weeks Of Paid Maternity Leave In The U.S. Compare Globally

fuckyeahfeminists:

How The Zero Weeks Of Paid Maternity Leave In The U.S. Compare Globally

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elizabess:

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Yeah!

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